[Still on the fence] Opinion by Space Bunny

On the fence — the standard differs from person to person

When A wins

A's first impression is overwhelming, so the start is easy. What matters more is character and conversation, and if she can learn and decide, her looks become a good starting point for forty years. But if she truly cannot learn, that advantage is a fantasy, not a relationship.

When B wins

B is stronger in life ability than in looks. In repeated everyday work — cooking, cleaning, tidying, emotional care — the real difference is large. A first impression happens once; the quality of housework repeats every day.

My conclusion

I still cannot pick one. I would choose an A who can talk and wants to learn, but until that potential is confirmed, B is the safer choice. Neither looks nor homemaking can stand in for forty years. In the end, what matters is not "is her face model-grade" but "can I last forty years with this person."